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My parents divorced when I was 7. For some reason, whenever the kids at school heard about this, I was always the troubled child. The fact that I was in therapy made it even worse. It's kind of ironic... my parents divorce was what made me sane, not insane. I was in therapy because of the mental and physical abuse my father was putting me through. My mother made the wise decision to divorce my father and get me and my sister away from him and his family. In comparison, I am 150% better off than if my mother had stayed Unhappily married with my father. The extreme increase of divorce percentages are not devestating to me. In an odd sort of way, they're almost comforting. People don't feel like they need to stay with someone who isn't making them happy anymore. Instead, their following their hearts, and doing what they feel is right. Their making themselves happy, instead of forging a love that once existed, perhaps, but is now dead. Staying together will just make matters worse... not only for the two individuals involved, but for their children and family.
I used to be terrified that our family was going to be ripped apart because of the ongoing arguments my mother and my father were having with each other. I never thought it was my fault... I knew that they had their own problems, and that they had to fight them out sometimes, and I had nothing to do with it. My mother taught me that. My father would have been more than happy to dump the blame on me. After every fight, I would climb into my mothers lap and ask her if her and daddy were going to get a divorce. She would laugh to cover up her tears, and assure me that if something like that were to happen, it wouldn't be soon, and I would be the first to know.
One of those times, when I stood beside her as she sat and thought, I asked her the question I always asked her, time and time again out of dread of being a 'troubled child. ' Only this time, she looked at me, and explained to me that it would happen. We would be moving away from daddy. I think I cried. I can't really remember my reaction. I don't believe it matters. Getting out of that house and getting away from my father was the best choice my mother could have made. I have absolutely no desire for them to get back together, I love the house I'm in now, and the lenience of my mother, compared to the harsh temper of my father.
Divorce was the best thing that could have happened to me. Learn to get around the 'troubled child' issues, and see the bright sides to what seperation can bring. It's not an uncommon or horrible thing. No matter what, you're not the only one.

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	~!~Leah~!~		26-Jul-02

My parents divorced when I was 6, because of their severe alcoholic tendencies..which may sounds kinda silly, because 2 alcoholics should be like 2 peas in a pod, but since I was old enough to understand all that and the stuff that actually went on right in front of me when I was just a child...I know that it's better this way. When you learn all the reasons and stop asking why, you learn to accept it.

	Liz		14-Jul-02

I just want to say in your case divorce is okay. But for some people, like me, The parents just got to lazy to work out their problems so they got divorced. This has seriously disconfigured my brother's and My sense of being and really hurt us. My parents are happy but we're mad because of their stupiness.

	Jamie		06-Jul-02

my parents are divorced and i am happy about it. now that im older i see that they were just not meant to be. they are happier now than they ever were. i dont mind being a child in a divorce, in fact i dont know how a "norma" family life with a father and mother in the same house would be.