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chelsea |
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05-05-06 11:43 AM |
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| my whole life my dad was a verbally abusive alcohollic. well back in september my dad went to work drunk and he fell down. he hit his head and bruised his brain so bad that he had to have brain surgery. well before my dad had his accident, my mom was so fed up with his drinking that she started sneakin around with another guy. my mom waited for my dad to get back on his feet and then she left him. my whole family (on her side) hates her becuase they think she is a terrible person for leaving her disabled husband. even tho my dad is fully recovered now, he still drinks. he is currently in rehab, and i hope he gets his life together. i feel so bad for both of my parents. i wish things could be perfect. | |
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05-10-06 12:01 AM |
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| My dad was like that too he drinked like 3 , 24 or 32 cases a week and my mom went with this guy 4 like 3 weeks and then my mom and me moved out becuz my dad would go get in bed everynite and say 2 my mom : Mary we need a divorce its time 2 get a divorce EVERY NITE and my mom finally did file and my dad was like i never said that but he was so drunk he wouldnt remember and he couldnt walk with out falling on sumthing so when they went 2 court he told the court he didnt want any drinking around me and no one around me drinks but my dad. and now last week my mom got full custody of me cuz my dad got so drunk he started cussing me out becuz of a softball game the nite b4 and we call my mom's lawer and she said I dont have 2 go see him cuz I'm old enough (13) to make my own choice HECK YEAH!!!! I dont have 2 see my dad. If u only knew how mean my dad is when he's drunk. I FEEL UR PAIN KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!! Luv always Bethany | |
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chelsea |
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05-17-06 11:20 AM |
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yeah my dad would drink the hard stuff.. like segrams seven whiskey straight. sometimes his rage would get to be really bad. even though he was never phisycally abusive.. it was like mentally and emotionally. i mean it was going on my entire life. he would go to work drunk, come home and drink some more, pass out, wake up and be sober for a few hours and then drink something and go back to work. and like your dad, mine could never remember what he did the night before and thats how i remember my entire life. it was so embarrassing sometimes when my friends would come over and my dad would be wasted. he even went to my 8th grade graduation plastered. i asked my mom how she could let us live like that and why we couldnt just leave. because he would seriously just nag at us and yell at us over absolutely nothing. just something like if my mom wasnt cooking dinner right or if i was on the computer. well it had started getting bad again last august and my dad was really getting off balance alot. he would stumble more when he drank. and his raging fits started to get worse- him and my brother even got into a fist fight and my brother lived with friends for like 2 weeks. so yeah i do know how mean your dad prolly is.. i still think there is no one else worse than my dad. but my mom found someone else. someone who she could relate to. well she never told her sisters or her parents or anything how much of an alcoholic my dad has been for all these years because she was so embarrassed. well my mom was getting pretty serious with this new guy when all of a sudden my dad was (what do you know) drunk at work and he fell down and hit his head. at first i didnt know how serious it was and i was just *#!ed off that he went to work drunk and i thought.. serves him right- maybe hell learn his lesson. well to make this long story a little shorter.. he had brain surgery and it was a near-death experience and it was really scary. when my dad came home from the hospital he was clean and he and my bro were back on good terms. well my mom couldnt make herself  my dad again after all of those years and she was too in with her bf to try to live a lie with my dad. so she left my dad. as soon as she did he hit the bottle again. and my brother moved out of my dads house and in with my mom. and i couldnt decide if i should i hate my dad or feel sorry for him. but he went to rehab and just got out. i hope it lasts.. but knowing my dad it wont. | |
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Emily |
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11-03-07 11:24 AM |
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| I can agree for that matter. No one would want to be near an alcoholic due to the dangers that have been caused by those types of people to begin with. She was probably concerned for her safety also. | |
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Courtney |
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11-14-07 11:38 AM |
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My Parents have been divorced since I was about 5 or 6.... I live with my Dad now b/c my mom was UNABLE to take care of me.... | |
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01-29-08 6:26 PM |
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First of all Chelsea, I understand your problems as well as your parents's but there is one thing wrong here. #1, Both of your parents are wrong and I know that is not a happy thing to hear, especially for anyone going through divorce. #2, I think you can maintain a strong relationship with your mother because her problems are minor legally yet major as far as a relationship is concerned. #3, You have the right to a safe and peaceful home which doesn't equal alcohol. Can't you imagine what your father can do to you if he keeps on with the alcohol after his surgery? He can kill you which is a good thing your parents can be separated. Though, there is still a right and wrong way to take things. Making another relationship isn't the way neither is your father being an alcoholic which is where I get altruistic for ANYONE going through a divorce with alcohol involved. Never, EVER does any child deserve a couple of parents when one does alcohol. A couple of cans of beer occasionally isn't bad but since you are speaking of an alcoholic, that gets even worse. I surly hope that the judge doesn't order your father to take legal custody of you to begin with because he is worse compared to your mother. If you need me...I'm not an attorney but I will be glad to talk to you whenever you need me. My email address is in my profile and you can message me anytime on here. I wish the best for you and hope the best with this battle of divorce. In the meantime, keep an optomistic attitude and think about what others are going through. Divorce is never an  process but with the attitude explained above can surly tell the judge you mean something. Take care! -Emily | |
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01-29-08 6:27 PM |
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| Oh. Chelsea, I wish things were good for you too, dear! | |
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01-29-08 6:29 PM |
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| Chelsea, I'm so sorry for not reading your reply and I know this is three years later but I am glad your father has checked himself into rehab and hope it is paying off for him. If your mother is lying, don't look up to her either. All she'll do is lead you into the wrong group of kids and I hope your father has some kind of sense when he comes home. | |
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